September 30, 2024 at 1:58pm EST

Collect Evidence of Your Independence

Hey,

Narcissists are good at making us dependent on them.

So, it can be hard to believe that a life beyond their influence is possible.

But it is, and one of the easiest ways to start believing this is by using sticky notes to collect evidence.

Here’s how:

Grab a stack of sticky notes, and throughout your day, every time you make a decision for yourself—like what to eat for lunch—write it down.

At the end of the day, take all the notes you created and put them up somewhere you can see—like on your mirror, desk, or, ideally, your wall.

Then, continue doing this for as many days as you can. 

Now, I know this exercise might sound silly or even pointless. 

But, 20 members of our community tried it for 30 days, and in the end, 19 said that they had a much stronger belief in their ability to reclaim control of their lives and live in a way that reflects who they truly want to be.

Why?

Well, because it’s really hard to ignore an entire wall of undeniable evidence of your ability to make your own decisions and live independently.

All the best,

Juliana