October 23, 2024 at 1:43pm EST

Did the Narcissist Steal Your Voice?

Hi there, it’s Juliana!

It’s common for people to lose their voice in narcissistic relationships.

This means losing the ability to express your thoughts, feelings, emotions and needs freely and confidently.

As a result, you often begin to justify, rationalize, or normalize the abuse to cope.

This is super dangerous because you end up either staying in the abusive relationship or, if you’ve already left, finding yourself in another one.

So, if you can relate to this at all, a great exercise you can use to reclaim your voice is practicing expressing yourself in safe, everyday situations.

For example:

If you’re in a café and your order isn’t right, you could politely say: “Hey, I asked for almond milk instead of regular milk. Can you change that?”

If you’re consistent, this exercise can make a big difference.

In fact, 25 of our members tried it for 60 days, and in the end, 24 said it helped them feel much more comfortable expressing themselves.

That’s a 96% success rate.

Of course, making this change won’t erase the impact of the abuse.

But reclaiming your voice after years of suppression is essential in rebuilding your sense of self-worth.

The more you express yourself—whether it’s your thoughts, feelings, or needs—the more you reaffirm your right to be heard and respected.

Over time, practices like this will help you recognize healthy relationships and distance yourself from unhealthy ones.

All the best,

Juliana

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