Do You Struggle with Negative Self-Talk?
Hi, it’s Juliana!
If you’re struggling with negative self-talk, you’re in the right place.
To overcome negative self-talk, you must practice positive self-talk.
This page has two excellent resources that help you do this:
How does self-compassion help you practice positive self-talk?
I hope you find this page helpful.
How to Increase Self-Compassion by Dr. Yedidya Levy
Writing Activity: “Letters of Self-Compassion”
What You’ll Need
1. Understanding Self-Compassion
First, let’s talk about the term “self-compassion.”
It means being warm and understanding toward ourselves.
For example, instead of thinking:
“I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I didn’t see what was happening. It was right in front of me. I should’ve stood up for myself and left sooner.”
We shift our perspective and think:
“It’s hard to spot manipulative behavior, especially when it comes from someone close. I was doing the best I could in a confusing situation.”
This nurturing attitude towards ourselves is vital for recovery and rebuilding self-esteem after such deeply challenging experiences.
2. Time for Reflection
Now that you have a better understanding of self-compassion, please reflect on your experiences with narcissistic abuse.
Pro Tip: If you don’t know how to do this, try asking yourself these self-reflective questions. I did, and it helped me a lot.
3. Writing Your Letter
Now, I’d like you to write a letter to yourself from a perspective of unconditional love and understanding.
Need help figuring out what to write? Here are some ideas:
4. Reflect on Your Letter
After writing your letter, take some time to reflect on what you wrote. If you’re comfortable, feel free to share parts of your letter or your feelings about this exercise with the group (click here to join. It’s free.) or with me.
5. Wrapping Up
As we close this activity, remember the importance of self-compassion and the strength it takes to be kind to oneself after such challenging experiences. Keep this letter and refer to it whenever you need a reminder of your worth and resilience.
6. Final Thoughts
I encourage you to write these letters regularly, especially during tough times, as a tool for nurturing self-compassion.
Thank you for participating in this exercise. Remember, you are worthy of kindness and compassion, especially from yourself.