October 30, 2024 at 3:00pm EST

If They Made You Feel Anxious, Try This!

Hi, it’s Juliana!

When you’re dealing with narcissistic people, you may often find yourself trying to anticipate their negative reactions. 

You end up ruminating over every little thing you do because you’re so worried about how they might respond. 

Over time, this relationship becomes a massive source of anxiety because you’re constantly walking on eggshells to avoid the narcissist’s reactions.

When you leave, if you don’t address the effect this environment had on you, this anxiety could follow you into future relationships.

So, here’s an exercise our community members have found helpful:

Grab some small pieces of paper and a container.

On each piece, write something you can do to take small steps toward feeling more confident and at ease in new relationships. 

For example, you could share an idea in a group setting or ask a friend for feedback on something important to you.

When you’re done, put all the papers in the container and place it somewhere you’ll see every day. 

Then, whenever it feels appropriate, pick a piece of paper and do the thing—no overthinking, just go for it!

Of the 25 people who’ve tried this exercise for more than 30 days, 24 said it’s helping them live more freely and feel more like themselves. 

I hope it can do the same for you.

All the best,

Juliana