October 16, 2024 at 2:15pm EDT

If You Second-Guess Your Feelings, Try This

Hey, it’s Juliana!

​​If narcissistic abuse has caused you to start second-guessing your feelings, this exercise is for you.

Select five specific times during your day. 

For example:

• 8:00 AM
• 11:00 AM
• 2:00 PM
• 5:00 PM
• 9:00 PM

At each of these times, ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?” and write down your answer.

If you’re having trouble identifying your feelings, I like to use an emotion chart like this to help pinpoint what I’m experiencing.

Once you’ve identified your feelings, it’s time to validate them. 

Write down or say out loud, “It makes sense that I feel this way because…” and provide a reason that fits your situation.

That’s it. 

25 of our community members tried this exercise for two months, and in the end, 21 of them said they no longer second-guess their feelings.

Why is this?

Well, narcissistic abuse often makes people minimize, question, or even dismiss their emotional experiences.

This exercise counters this by helping people build a consistent routine of checking in, acknowledging, and validating their feelings.

So, over time, it rewires their brain to trust emotional experiences instead of automatically second-guessing them.

All the best,

Juliana