December 2, 2024 at 2:02pm EST

Six Truths for Healing

If you’re trying to heal from narcissistic abuse, here are six pieces of advice I have for you:

First, for so long, you saw yourself through their eyes. 

But their version of you—too sensitive, not enough, impossible to love or respect—was never real. 

It’s time to let go of that lens and start seeing yourself for who you truly are.

Second, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for walking away, especially not them. Save your energy for yourself.

Third, if the calm after leaving feels strange, that’s normal.

Narcissists thrive on chaos, so quiet can feel unsettling. But lean into it. That stillness is where clarity and healing begin.

Fourth, start small. Wear the clothes they criticized. 

Play the music they dismissed. Say yes to the opportunities they made you feel unworthy of. 

Every choice like this is a piece of yourself returning.

Fifth, leaving wasn’t weakness—it was courage. 

You chose yourself, and that’s the foundation for everything good that comes next.

And finally, there’s life after a narcissist. 

It’s quieter, freer, and entirely yours to shape. And here’s the truth: you don’t need their validation or permission—you never did.

All the best,

Juliana

The Unfilteredd Team