October 25, 2024 at 2:03pm EST

The Narcissist Isn’t Going to Apologize

Hi there, it’s Juliana!

Narcissists will never give you a genuine apology. 

This can make moving forward with your life feel impossible because we’re often taught that apologies are an essential part of closure.

But the truth is, closure from a narcissistic relationship doesn’t require an apology; it requires letting go of the need for an apology.

Because true closure is freedom—the freedom to be happy, live a fulfilling life, and know that your worth was never theirs to define.

One way you can do this is by finding a quiet place where you can spend 10–20 minutes writing a letter to the narcissistic person in your life.

Write about everything you wish they’d take responsibility for, and end by acknowledging that the accountability you deserve will never come.

My favorite way to do this is to end with, “I know you can’t give this to me, and that’s okay because I’m ready to move forward without it.”

Then, when you’re ready, use a symbolic act to release what you wrote. For example, you could find a safe place to burn it to symbolize release.

That’s it…

Now, to be honest, this exercise might not even work for you. 

But the reason I’m sharing it is to give you an idea of the small actions you can take to go from where you are today to where you want to be.

I hope it helps, and remember, healing and moving forward with your life is possible, even when it feels impossible.

All the best,

Juliana