November 15, 2024 at 2:18pm EST

This Is Hard

One reason reaching out for help after experiencing narcissistic abuse is so hard is that it damages your sense of credibility.

You feel so invalid that you can’t help but question the point of opening up to someone else, only to be met with more invalidation and rejection.

What’s worked best for me is finding ways to ease into sharing my experiences in safe spaces.

Start with anonymous, supportive spaces like Reddit forums or support groups specifically for people recovering from narcissistic relationships.

These spaces let you share your story, feel seen, and receive validation without the immediate vulnerability of face-to-face interaction.

As you grow more comfortable, move toward opening up to people you trust in your personal life. 

It could be one close friend, family member, or even a therapist—really just anyone you trust who will listen without judgment.

Now, no matter how careful you are, you will most likely come across people who just won’t understand your experiences. 

But that’s okay; you don’t need everyone to understand. 

Often, you just need one or two people to validate your experiences so you can find the courage to start taking back control of your life.

And trust me, these people exist. 

One of them might even be the person looking back at you in the mirror.

You just have to find them.

All the best,

Juliana