Who We Are

Hi, it’s Juliana!

I grew up around narcissistic people and spent decades of my life struggling because of it.

But I honestly had no idea.

I knew something wasn’t right.

But I didn’t really have the words for any of it.

Then I met my husband Elijah in a café in Rauma, Finland.

He also had narcissistic people in his life, but he had a better understanding of it.

So when I started opening up to him, he was always there for me.

He listened, helped me work through things, and stuck with me when I struggled.

Two years after we met, we were sitting with a friend of ours who was getting out of an abusive relationship.

This friend made a joke like:

“So all I need to do is find someone who loves me like Elijah loves you.”

I laughed, but Elijah didn’t.

I can’t remember exactly what he said, but it was something like:

“You don’t need someone to love you.”

And then he went on to explain how the person who had helped him was a woman he met while he was living in Spain.

She was in her 70s. He wasn’t sure if her name was María or Marina.

And they often had to use Google Translate to communicate.

There’s a lot more to that story, but the point is: they weren’t in love.

They just had this shared experience with narcissistic abuse.

And having someone actually believe him, understand him, and help him changed everything.

So if you were to ask me:

“What’s the story behind Unfilteredd?”

That’s it!

My entire life changed after I met Elijah.

I thought it was because I fell in love with him.

But it wasn’t.

It was because:

1.) I finally understood what I was going through.

2.) I figured out what I could do about it.

3.) I had someone there for me through all of it.

Once Elijah and I realized this, there was no question about what we wanted to do next.

I left my career as a lawyer, he left his career as a soccer player, and we started Unfilteredd to create a space where you can find the same guidance and support I found in Elijah.

Only instead of it coming from an “Elijah,” it comes from a licensed mental health professional who has both personal and professional experience with this type of abuse.

Thank you so much for reading all of this!

Juliana