Going no contact with a narcissist is a big decision. Because of this, people often ask, “Does the No Contact Method even work?”

Going no contact with a narcissist works because it prevents emotional manipulation, breaks the cycle of abuse, creates space for healthy relationships, healing, and personal growth, removes the narcissist’s emotional leverage over you, takes away their narcissistic supply, and helps you get closure.

In this article, I will guide you through these reasons to help you better understand why going no contact with a narcissist works so well.

1.) It Prevents Emotional Manipulation

The first reason going no contact with a narcissist works is it prevents emotional manipulation.

This is a big deal because, without the constant emotional turmoil that the manipulative tactics narcissists use cause, you can start to see things more clearly.

What do I mean by this? 

I mean that you’ll no longer be a target for tactics like guilt-tripping or gaslighting that are designed to keep you anxious and confused. 

A woman feeling anxious.

Instead, you’ll be able to focus on rebuilding your self-esteem and self-worth and rediscovering your purpose in life.

2.) It Breaks the Cycle of Abuse

The second reason going no contact works is it breaks the cycle of abuse.

You see, when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s like being stuck on a rollercoaster that you can’t get off. 

They’re nice one minute and mean the next, keeping you on your toes and making you feel like you’re the problem. 

Going no contact is like finally hitting the emergency stop and getting off that ride. 

It allows you to step back and see the situation for what it is—an abusive cycle that you’re better off without. 

When you break that cycle, you make room for developing healthy relationships, healing, and becoming the best version of yourself.

Suggested Reading: What Is the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle?

3.) It Provides Room for Healthy Relationships

The third reason going no contact with a narcissist works is because it provides room for healthy relationships.

It does this because when you go no contact, you’re essentially decluttering your emotional landscape. 

The draining interactions that consumed so much of your focus are now gone, freeing you to nurture relationships that genuinely make you feel good. 

Healthy friendship.

Without toxicity, you can now invest time in people who reciprocate love, respect, and understanding—key ingredients for any healing journey. 

Over time, these positive relationships will help restore your emotional balance, heal, and cultivate a fulfilling life for yourself.

Suggested Reading: How to Have a Healthy Relationship After Narcissistic Abuse

4.) It Creates Space for Healing and Personal Growth

The fourth reason going no contact with a narcissist works is because it creates space for healing and personal growth.

You see, deciding to go no contact isn’t just about putting distance between you and the narcissist; it’s about opening up a new chapter in your life.

Without the cloud of emotional manipulation or constant tension, you’ll find that your mind becomes much more peaceful. 

This peace allows you to rediscover yourself and nurture the most important relationship you have—the one with yourself.

Suggested Reading: 10 Ways to Grow as a Person After Narcissistic Abuse

5.) It Removes Emotional Leverage

The fifth reason going no contact with a narcissist works is because it removes the emotional leverage a narcissist has over you. 

Please don’t sleep on this because it is a powerful shift. 

As you probably already know, narcissists use your emotions against you, whether it’s your love, guilt, or grief, to manipulate situations to their favor. 

When you go no contact, you take away this leverage, effectively disarming them. 

This means they can no longer use your emotions to control you. 

This is huge because it allows you to take steps toward regaining your emotional stability without the narcissist trying to sabotage your healing progress.

6.) It Takes Away Their Narcissistic Supply

The term “narcissistic supply” refers to the validation, admiration, reassurance, power, and control narcissists seek from others.

Suggested Reading: What Is Narcissistic Supply? (A Complete Guide)

They use this supply to suppress the painful thoughts, feelings, and emotions they struggle with.

Now, the people narcissists abuse are their primary source of narcissistic supply, feeding the narcissist’s ego and emotional needs. 

When you go no contact, you pull the plug on this supply.

A woman going no contact.

Meaning that the narcissist loses the validation, admiration, reassurance, power, and control they’ve been taking from you.

As a result, the narcissist will be forced to look elsewhere for their narcissistic supply, giving you the time and space needed for healing.

7.) It Helps You Get Closure

Closure is a common challenge blocking the path to recovery for many people trying to heal from narcissistic abuse. 

This is because narcissists tend to avoid taking responsibility for their actions, which will most likely leave you with more questions than answers. 

Going no contact is an important step to provide yourself with the closure the narcissist is unwilling or unable to give you. 

While you may not have all the answers you’d like, you gain something far more valuable—the final say in a relationship where your voice was often ignored. 

This creates a sense of finality that is crucial for healing, moving forward, finding your purpose, and rediscovering the meaning of life outside of the narcissist’s control.

Suggested Reading: How to Get Closure from a Narcissistic Relationship (7 Ways)

What Should You Take Away from This Article?

While it certainly isn’t an easy task, going no contact with a narcissist works because it:

  • Prevents emotional manipulation.
  • Breaks the cycle of abuse.
  • Creates space for healthy relationships, healing, and personal growth.
  • Removes the emotional leverage the narcissist has over you.
  • Takes away their narcissistic supply.
  • Helps you get closure. 

I hope this article brought you value. Thank you for reading it, and have a great day!

About the Author

Hey, I’m Elijah.

I experienced narcissistic abuse for three years. 

I create these articles to help you understand and validate your experiences.

Thank you for reading, and remember, healing is possible even when it feels impossible.

If you’re ready to heal, visit The Institute of Healing from Narcissistic Abuse to get started.


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