The 4 Types of People Narcissists Fear

Someone in our community asked: “What type of people do narcissist fear most?” I did some research. Here’s what I found.

As a general rule, narcissists fear people who are assertive communicators, emotionally intelligent, independently minded, or critical thinkers because their traits, qualities, and characteristics make them much less susceptible to the tactics narcissists use to maintain power and control over the people they abuse.

In this article, I’ll guide you step-by-step through each of these types of people to help you better understand the reason narcissists fear them.

1.) Assertive Communicators

Narcissists fear individuals who communicate their thoughts, feelings, emotions, needs, and boundaries assertively.

You see, assertive communicators are confident in expressing themselves without being aggressive.¹

This type of communication is a threat to narcissists because it directly challenges their sense of superiority and control.

Narcissists thrive on manipulating and controlling others, so encountering someone who clearly articulates boundaries and cannot be easily swayed or controlled makes them feel powerless and insecure.

For example, imagine you’re at a workplace, and your boss is a narcissist.

They’re used to dictating terms and having their way without question.

You, however, do not hesitate to speak up during a meeting, clearly stating that the new project timeline is unrealistic and explaining why.

You offer constructive feedback and set clear boundaries regarding your workload and availability.

Your boss, not used to this level of assertiveness, becomes unnerved.

They realize they cannot manipulate or steamroll you as they do with others, which causes them to avoid confrontations with you.

2.) People Who Are Emotionally Intelligent

People with high emotional intelligence (EI) can understand and manage their emotions and recognize and influence the emotions of others.²

Narcissists fear emotionally intelligent individuals because these people can see through the emotional manipulation and games narcissists play.

They’re adept at diffusing tense situations and can remain calm under pressure, which disrupts the narcissist’s ability to trigger emotional reactions and take control of their surrounding environment.

For instance, consider a scenario where a narcissistic partner tries to provoke jealousy by flirting with someone else at a party.

An emotionally intelligent partner would notice this behavior but most likely choose not to react impulsively.

Instead, they calmly address the issue later, expressing their feelings without aggression and asking for a respectful relationship dynamic.

The narcissist, expecting anger or jealousy, finds their usual tactics ineffective, making them feel exposed and less in control.

3.) People Who Are Independently Minded

Independent-minded individuals value their autonomy and the ability to think for themselves above all else.

They do not rely on others to validate their thoughts or actions and are comfortable making decisions that align with their own values and beliefs, even if these go against the grain.

Narcissists find this type of person intimidating because their usual tactics of manipulation, flattery, or coercion have little to no effect, leaving them feeling powerless and irrelevant.

For example, let’s say you’re part of a book club, and one member often tries to dominate the discussions, insisting their interpretations are the only correct ones.

This person thrives on others agreeing with them, a classic narcissistic trait.

You, however, are not afraid to offer your unique perspectives, even when they starkly contrast with the dominating member’s views.

In one session, when the narcissist dismisses another member’s interpretation of a novel’s theme, you calmly present a well-thought-out counterargument that supports the other member’s view, highlighting how the novel’s context supports multiple interpretations.

Your confidence and refusal to be swayed or intimidated by the narcissist’s assertiveness leave them flustered and less confident.

Over time, your ability to stand your ground and encourage diverse opinions without seeking the narcissist’s approval diminishes the narcissist’s influence over the group, showcasing the power of independent thought.

4.) Critical Thinkers

Critical thinkers approach situations and claims with skepticism and logic, preferring to analyze facts and evidence before forming an opinion.³ 

They are not easily swayed by charisma or superficial charm, which are tools often used by narcissists to manipulate and control others. 

Narcissists fear critical thinkers because their tactics of exaggeration, distortion, or outright falsehoods are effectively neutralized. 

Critical thinkers often question the validity of the narcissist’s grandiose claims and expose inconsistencies or lies.

This is terrifying for narcissists because it challenges their “perfectly” constructed image of infallibility and superiority.

For example, consider a scenario in a community meeting where a narcissist proposes a grand but vaguely defined project that they claim will benefit everyone. 

While others seem taken in by the person’s confidence and ambitious vision, you, a critical thinker, start asking pointed questions about the specifics of the project: its feasibility, funding, timeline, and how exactly it will benefit the community. 

Unsurprisingly, your questions reveal that the narcissist has not thought through the practical aspects of their proposal. 

As the discussion unfolds, others begin to see the holes in the proposal as well, thanks to your initial skepticism. 

And, as a result, the narcissist, unable to fabricate details on the spot, becomes defensive because their facade of competence is beginning to crumble.

What Should You Take Away from This Article?

As a general rule, narcissists fear people who are one or more of the following:

• Assertive communicators.
• Emotionally intelligent.
• Independently minded.
• Or critical thinkers.

This is because they are much less susceptible to the tactics narcissists use to maintain power and control over the people they abuse.

Thank you for taking the time to read this piece!

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